But, what does "best version" mean? I cannot truly know what someone's best version is. Can that person actually be the person I think they are? Do they even want to? Does their belief of their best version of themselves come anywhere close to mine? It is a hard thing to know.
To that point, I don't even know what the best version of myself is. I know the best I've ever been. I have sense of who the best me might be. But that's hardly definitive.
So, if I'm going to keep the concept of "the best version", I need to define it. Something consistent and in line with how I think about it now. Here is what I've come up with.
- I look at someone I try my best to see them as they are at that moment, without preconceptions. The truer I see someone the truer my view of their best version.
- The best version of me is a little better than the best I've ever been. I can always improve myself.
The whole idea is cheesy, I suppose. But like any idea, it's a tool, a way of orienting my mind. Something that helps me be the person I want to be. I am lucky that in my life I have people who have wonderful versions of themselves and show it regularly, and someone who makes me want to be my best version.
Be good, have fun,
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